Aside from Stormies recent blog, "just do it" the best advice I've recieved came from a marriage course required by my church before we got married. We followed along The Marriage Book: How to Build A Lasting Relationship Written by Nicky and Sila Lee.
Chapter 5- the 5 expressions of love really stood out to me, and I frequently go back to that chapter.
The idea is, essentially there are 5 ways to express our love
The exersize included each of us ranking the about expressions of importance for both ourselves and what we think our partners would rank
So, for myself I ranked it as follows
The big surprise was despite how well I thought I new the man, and how well he knows me... Our ranking did not line up perfectly.
I feel the most love when he tells me that I'm beautiful, or how much we can't believe I'm his wife, but also through his actions. I feel loved when he steps up as an hoh, guides and protects me. I feel loved when he worries about me, and takes action to protect our marriage and my safety.
He feels love when I scratch his head when we are lying on the couch, when I pack him yummy lunches for work and.... Let's just say touch was a big one.
I think this is an important exersize for all couples.
Because it the little things in life right?